Learning Love Through Travel in Florence

Short, but sweet

A pidgeon’s beauty shot

Remember to experience travel

Short, but sweet

 I need to start by disclosing that our time in Firenze (Florence) was extremely short due to our train times-not to say the short lived stay in Firenze did not offer an experience-just a very limited experience. It was a pretty popular theme: rushed and fast paced, but we made the best of it with the opportunity we had. We, of course, could have removed the city from the itinerary, but we had wanted to experience numerous Italian cities in our exploration.

On a positive note, for two travelers with minimal time, Firenze was optimal. The train station is deep within the downtown, so when you emerge, you find yourself already engulfed by the city. The morning sun was just retiring as the midday warmth was awakening creating a delightful brisk walk to the hostel. To admit, I was envious of other travelers embarking towards their accommodations knowing they had longer intentions of stay.

The sun weaved onto the architecture of the buildings, which to articulate, are patterns integrated onto the walls, doors, and windows. As a quicker observation, it may look like color, but in deeper reflection, it is the shadows that are guarding each brick creating an intricate design.  

Arriving at the steps and gateway of the Plus Hostel, it was umbrellaed with flags from various countries. There was an efficiency aspect to the hostel which was not surprising based on the rather grand size, but the hostel was what any traveler within a budget needs: rooftop lounging, outdoor pool during summer, laundry facilities, community showers, and bunking options to your privacy level. To its’ credit, the hostel had some beautifully designed rooftop lounging with various roof patio seating including hammocks and large potted plants. Although it was only early April-the kickoff of the tourist season-the hostel took into consideration the Firenze heat that was sure to arrive in the summer.

Our private room with a private bathroom including shower was very budget friendly with high standards of cleanliness. To our surprise, even the double window opened to a horizon view of the city. For sure a high recommendation. If you are lucky, you may even have the opportunity to participate in an optional fire drill in the morning, which was scheduled the following morning. Sadly, we were unable to RSVP due to our planned early morning train, but I do not think either of us were terribly upset by that.

After taking a quick refresh, we set off into the city.

A pigeon’s beauty shot

Missing some of the warmer weather from earlier in the trip, we decided to try to take advantage of the sunny weather with the light Hawaiian button shirts we brought with us. I cannot say it is surprising that we compliment each other’s vibrancy through the watermelon and flamingo patterned shirts, but it is a surprise when in one of Italy’s most historic cities where fashion is expected. Never the less, we strolled into the urban area of the city on the search for beautiful water which in Firenze, is the Arno River.

The Arno River is lined with bright, colorful architecture as if assembled around the thousands of windows located on the buildings as well as the bridge. What I did not understand is why the walls were so high barricading people from admiring the water at various points. Near the bridge, there was opportunity to view the water, but only from a higher spot. With the beautiful sun setting, we were still able to stretch on our tiptoes to see over or hop onto the wall. It was ideal time for some photography. Just a few pictures in attempting to capture the sun highlighting the yellow and blues of the walls when a pigeon flew down onto the wall just arms length away. Now, I love birds, so the idea that a pigeon wanted a closeup beauty shot had me shocked and elated. It was this moment where I adopted the nickname ‘Pidge’.

Remember to experience travel

We began to meander our way back through the city to Florence Cathedral called ‘Cattedrale di Santa Maria del Fiore’. The epicness of the size was hard to comprehend. Each way you look, you see the bold outlines stretch further. The vastness of the building reached into the endlessness of the blue sky leaving you in wonder of height and depth between the two. Glancing around, you notice various street artists with beautiful pieces hung for sale. Then you notice the other tourists. Some in groups snapping quick pictures and some in a purposeful pauses of admiration. Both had someone voicing facts that most likely won’t be heard or remembered.

If you pay attention long enough though, you notice the boredom painted on so many faces. It felt like so many were acting the playwright: walking the tour, hearing-but not listening to the guide, and capturing routine pictures. Did they actually want to go on that walking tour? Guided tours, in general, are common in most tourism dominant cities which can be great ways to see iconic scenery, but if you do not like history, might not be the best option for you. Or if you do not like a scheduled plan made for you, also a tour might not be for you. But if you maybe only are comfortable on a tour, then maybe it is ideal for you. Not to narrow that guided tours are the only kind of decision that needs to be made when traveling, but each decision impacts your experience especially allowing others to plan your time for you.

On reflection on myself, I personally am not favorable to guided tours. I have done an intriguing Ghost tour in Chicago back in my teens I still partially remember, but I also remember time waiting on the bus, watching others on the bus taking pictures, and wondering when we would head back to the meeting point. And for me, that has always stuck with me. Why would I want to have those thoughts while ever traveling? That, honestly, seemed so sad to me that something that I was supposed to be fully immersed in and I am wondering when it will end.

I do not wish on anyone to ever be bored while traveling. You have new places, people, food, and culture around you to learn and connect with. 

Firenze offered a constant reflective theme: Pleasure. With limited expectations and open opportunity, we travel with the goal to just enjoy where and who you are. Reflecting still on our earliest travels, it was one of the biggest aspects we connected over. Traveling does not have to seem like a scheduled routine-it can be a liberating enjoyment of exploration with no itinerary. Invite yourself to get lost. Give yourself opportunity to experience. And allow yourself to just be.

Learning Love Through Travel On the Cinque Terre

Count the lizards

Walking Together as a Practice of Love

Slow down

Count the Lizards

It has been said by someone at some point that the beauty of this world is in its detail. We detoxed from the suffocating artificial wealth of Monaco, when we arrived in Vernazza, one of the 5 cities of the Cinque Terre. We found our Airbnb, a cute little place with a draw bridge over a small creek and then found some pizza to eat by the water. After said pizza, we made our way to the official trail of the Cinque Terre to head towards the town of Monterosso.  The hike was pretty much straight up. My dogs were barking if you know what I mean. My butt cheeks were strengthening. It was beautiful. There were people from all over the world passing us on either side of the trail as we slowly made our way betwixt cities. The views were phenomenal as you can see the entire city of Vernazza from above it within a few minutes of hiking and soon the entire coastline of Italy. Along the way we began to count the number of lizards we saw. They were doing the Cinque Terre too. 37 of them. And we saw one snake. Counting lizards kept our focus on the trail and on the beautiful details of nature that surrounded us on all sides. 

Walking Together as a Practice of Love

Have you ever wondered why a walk is one of the most romantic things to do with your lover? Long walks on the beach are so romantic because it slows you down to a pace where you appreciate everything you are feeling within you and everything you are surrounded by. The vastness of the sky. The movement of the waves. The power of the tides. The softness of the sand. Sometimes when the rhythm of our hearts aligns with the rhythm of nature, we feel in sync with the chorus of the world. It also directionally is two people moving in the same direction at the same pace – if that isn’t love then what is, ya know? I feel that walking with your true love makes you more free than you were when you were walking alone and that you can get to places you couldn’t get to on your own. Being in love then becomes an evolution of the soul, it allows access to another level of living and loving that can only be actualized together. 

Slow Down

Slow down, I just wanna get to know ya! I mean look, the most magical aspect of the Cinque Terre is how it slows you down. We had been traveling to a new place everyday before the Cinque Terre and I felt the change of pace right when we started walking the Cinque Terre. It allows you to take a deep breath, to inspire, and to take it all in. To allow is not to accept. To allow is to face reality so that you can then choose your path to liberation.

There is no controlling life.

Try corralling a lightning bolt,

containing a tornado. Dam a

stream and it will create a new

channel. Resist, and the tide

will sweep you off your feet.

Allow, and grace will carry

you to higher ground. The only

safety lies in letting it all in –

the wild and the weak; fear,

fantasies, failures and success.

When loss rips off the doors of

the heart, or sadness veils your

vision with despair, practice

becomes simply bearing the truth.

In the choice to let go of your

known way of being, the whole

world is revealed to your new eyes.

Allow by Danna Faulds

Learning Love Through Travel in Monaco

Always read the signs

Secrets from concrete real estate

Old wealth haven

Always read the signs

The opportunity was there-we had planned on visiting Nice before heading to Italy anyway, so why not peek at Monaco. I think the warnings were there while in Nice; The taxi driver that quoted an insanely high price for about 16 kilometers or the disapproving look of the waiter in Nice when we referenced the renowned country. Now in reflection, it is surprising they even granted a train to pass through-you will understand more in a moment.  

The Miramar Hotel was so serene and beautiful rested on the main street neighboring the water with such a friendly smiling receptionist that greeted our arrival. Outside our balcony, the harbor cradled yachts gently. The room was spacious with an intriguing sense of design. The bathroom with two sinks and a glass-doored shower was a luxurious combination of nautical and artistic rainforest. It was really the white ravens that were perched above the bathroom mirrors and bed dangling the room’s lighting from their beaks that established the setting. I mean, was it symbolism: Poe’s ‘The Raven’. The connection seemed subtle.

When we emerged onto the street with no solid expectations, the reflection of the sun setting beyond the mountainous wall on the water was so capturing. Similar to many Mediterranean bordering countries, as you look out towards the Mediterranean Sea, the blue enriches as the ocean disappears into the horizon. As we continued to walk, it seemed quieter than I had thought when we had arrived except for the Lamborghinis, Ashton Martins and Bugattis that would jet by now and again. 

Secrets from the concrete real estate

There was more architectural-lacking, concrete real estate than I had expected for water front property. They were simple, residential buildings with balconies that lacked personality or…just literally people in that case. It was a beautiful day, yet no one on their balconies during the sun set. That is when I noticed a lack of people in general. There was such a limited number of pedestrians we passed that seemed to only be outside to solely walk their pups. This eerie feeling was growing.

Among all the random pieces of statues and art on the sidewalk, there was one piece called ‘When The Ocean Sounds’ by David Horvitz. It was a rather large piece with multiple “SHHH”s and “SHSH”s. Upon initial reflection, maybe it was a reminder to keep the streets quiet, but then again it could have been hinting at the hidden secret of this city.  Next to the piece, there was plaque that continued to explain that it represented the ocean, but the secret metaphor was more overwhelming.

It was relieving to stroll along some mothers quietly chatting while watching their children ride on scooters. I guess that area was some sort of park, but I do not remember seeing any kind of play structure or even a single swing set. The area transitioned into some waterfront property to an artificial beach. I think this was the first time opportunity was taken on waterfront property, other than the area of harbor-yacht association near the Miramar.

The artificial beach homed a few beach-themed restaurants with patios and an enclosed swimming area which seemed ideal for warm weather. It was a tradition of our holiday to locate waterfront spots to enjoy a drink, but that plan was dissipating quickly. With such an abundance of patio tables, chairs, and lounge seats; they were empty. Peering into the glass of the restaurants: empty. There was one-single table at the last establishment with four young adults with drinks. When we approached, one employee confirmed they were already closed. It was 6 o clock (18:00)…and the only open establishment was closing. Now thinking about it, everything was closed. Not one store, real estate office, or retail front was open. Everything- just deserted. 

Bizarre? Mysterious? Creepy? It felt like we were in this quest to find any kind of lively area. We had to finally backtrack in what was the only thing that somewhat resembled it. We ended up following another couple down an enclosed hallway, almost hidden under a building, lined with mirrors and elegant tile to an elevator with no signage. Very ‘Hotel California’ like as if we may never leave. The elevator rose near possibly what we were searching for. It was this large brick city square between the Monte Carlo Casino, Jardin du Casino, and Le Restaurant Casino Cafe de Paris. It was here we found that anybody that was anyone was at the large patio restaurant in front of casino sipping drinks with company guarded by security agents at the entrance and police wandering around. 

It was difficult to ignore the resemblance of a theme park on the Garden. The trees seemed so artificially placed and the flowers did not seem native. There were limited gardens to begin with, but this one and any on the medians between the lanes of the roads all echoed the same fabricated design. In sad honesty, I am unsure if I would have known the difference if they were plastic to uphold the vibrancy and vivacious, counterfeit demeanor. 

Being from the US, casinos are attractions first and entertainment second. Places like Las Vegas, there is an enticing draw for tourists to experience the environment and excitement of the casino floors in hope of coaxing a “F.O.M.O.” (fear of missing out) feeling. Monte Carlo, on the other hand, had a different approach. Their reputation and image was priority which was not surprising, but seventeen euros per person to even enter the casino floor seemed steep. The strategy was probably successful in mitigating anyone other than high rollers, but it seemed unusual when just seeing the ‘one arm bandits’ near the entrance appear to be from the ‘90s. It was, also, quiet. No capturing themes, flashing lights, or entertaining music reeling in gamblers. How is a casino actually boring…and why did that one older man look bored at a machine?

At this point, there was a feeling of desperateness for more than dinner, but feeling of life? Our options seemed slim, so we figured to at least check out Le Restaurant Casino Cafe de Paris and damn I was not expecting to be the star of ‘Pretty Woman’ for that solid 6 minutes we were there. The hostess’s eyes examined us head to toe in almost disgust and disbelief of our existence in the building. No reservation-would have thought we had committed a crime even though the elegant ballroom with easily 80 tables had a maximum of 5 of them filled. We were all more than eager to walk out minutes after being granted access to a table passing each employee that almost had a sense of relief of our departure. Sense of relief that our presence would no longer tarnish their status. 

How thankful we were when we located a little Italian restaurant, a Steak ‘n Shake, and a market to complete our night in our room with a slice of tiramisu and bottle of cheap wine. Interesting how we landed back at the hotel room before 9 o clock to a lingering ‘The Raven’ motif. I mean there we were back in the chamber hoping the dystopian and shudder-some Monaco would not be able to penetrate. We were both so grateful to sit on the balcony together sipping wine basically already packed eager to escape. We continued to exchange thoughts and discussed our excitement for what was next as usual. 

Old Wealth Haven  

To keep in mind, we did travel to Monaco on a Sunday which come to find out is more a ‘rest day’ which is not uncommon in many cultures, but there was such disconnect from life. ‘Rest days’ usually include company and shared meals, but this country had me consistently questioning if anyone actually resided there. The largest attractions are, of course, the Grand Prix and large music shows, but I can confidently assume that the prices alone are the criteria for those that visit during those times. 

Also, looking at the long history of the country, the economic system was built by wealth and continues to be a rich haven. The country prides itself on non-existent poverty despite most of the work force being people from surrounding countries which makes anyone question who are the actual citizens. Another point that is boasted by Monaco, there is an overwhelming amount of police force compared to citizen ratio. For a country with such a sparse, if any, amount of physical crime, such a sense of fear.

If Monaco is still on your radar, just have adjusted expectations. During the end of March on a Sunday, hotel fare was still upwards to $200 (USD) a night when the same room was priced three to four times the rate other days that same week. It is a country sheltering a vast amount of ‘old wealth’. Other websites have listed the country as ‘an adventure to get to due to limited access’. It’s a warning of itself-to most likely restrict those of limited equity. The train from Nice to Monaco is relatively cheap with walking distance to the city center and the taxi is effortless for a steep fare. For us, 15 hours was more than enough and we could not get on the train fast enough. 

“And my soul from out that shadow that lies floating on the floor Shall be lifted – nevermore”

Edgar Allen Poe

Learning Love Through Travel in Nice

Shoulda, woulda, coulda

An immersive moment

Pidge Practices Patience

Shoulda, woulda, coulda

I hate regret. It is such a feeling of disappointment, but there is a part of me that regrets not giving more time for Nice. Our whole adventure was already so short and, sadly, Nice only got a few hours of our itinerary for lunch before we needed to head on to the next destination. I always say ‘shoulda, woulda, coulda’ as you cannot be satisfied with every decision, but I definitely would recommend to take extra time in Nice. It is by far one of the places in the world I hope we visit again for multiple days. 

An immersive moment

From the airport, a quick bus ride takes you right downtown dropping you off in the midst of the city. The skinny roads were lined with French style architecture and motorbikes. And a few short blocks takes you to the coast of the Mediterranean Sea. I felt so welcomed at the rocky beach as we had some of my favorite memories in this same sea from our trip to Greece. They were such familiar waves that directed us to a local little restaurant where we enjoyed an amazing Truffle Pizza with a flavorful Olive Oil on the beach. I am pretty sure that olive oil contained a whole garden including rosemary, garlic, and thyme, but by far the best olive oil we surprisingly had our entire trip. Such a light flavor complimenting the pizza crust that I think David would fall off his tiny butt for.

As we just sat at the table with our backpacks next to us on the rocks, for a second I forgot that we were actually across the world and that we still had a life/career/drama back in the US. How euphoric to be free from the stress and constant anxiety. It was such an immersive moment to be with the man I have fallen so deeply with and not to have even a pause about the personal chaos back at home. I know that is the feeling I have always dreamed of and that I have been chasing since. 

After finishing such a blissful meal, we thought we were asking an innocent question to our waiter if we could walk on foot to Monaco, but after seeing the waiter’s reaction, we realized we touched a sort of taboo subject. The eyes of the waiter got large in judgment, disgust, but also pity knowing we just did not know what was ahead for us. (See Monaco if you want to know why). 

Pidge Practices Patience

Well after finding out we could not walk to Monaco, we had to find another option. David indicated that we could find a taxi for such a short ride saving us time. Mind you, we were not near the airport, so taxis are not super common roaming the city, but David was set on a taxi. We trekked off for at least 35 – 40 minutes as we slowly became more and more tired. I suggested we stop to do a quick search for another option, but he was still confident we would find a taxi the further out we walked. 

We continued to have no luck finding a taxi, but did find two younger french men who I was able to successfully communicate with about where to locate one. As we strode off, I had begun looking up train stations nearby and knew it would be a walk. I started directing us towards the station instead when we actually surprisingly had a taxi pass us. David flagged it down with such hope and confidence as his patience began to thin. The taxi driver quoted us a ridiculous 75 euros for a short 10 minute drive to Monaco where David was tempted to accept to save his feet, but I encouraged that we are not that far from the train. 

With at least another 18 mins and a fading David, I navigated us to the train station. Almost ironic that after such a euphoric lunch, we found ourselves in such an anxious moment just trying to get to the next part of the adventure. 

Although I am grateful for the small tests of patience for David and I, I cannot wait to see what Nice has in place for us upon our return.